There’s more to being single than just saying you are, or appearing to be. We all know someone that talks the single talk. They know all of the songs, speak all of the single rhetoric, they’re out of their previous relationship or so it seems, and they’re supposedly over it and moving on. They’re ready to live the single life or they’re ready to receive the right person, or so it seems.
Like with most things actions speak louder than words. You’re not officially single until everything about you says so and is through with your previous relationship. Your actions have to line up with your talk.
If your thoughts are with that person all the time, or if every time you see your ex you act or give the impression that the two of you may still be together or still have something going on or the possibility, you’re not completely single and you haven’t moved on yet. You’re very much attached.
If every time you see your ex, you’re still acting like a couple, i.e., hugged up with them, all under them, hung on their every word, dancing like couples do, letting them effect your moods, or giving them boyfriend respect as to how you interact with other people in a social setting, you do nothing but cause confusion.
Confusion for yourself, your ex, and any potential suitors that may want to approach you. A good way to scare the right person off is for them to believe that you’re still involved or hung up on your ex. If you constantly continue to act as if you’re a persons mate when its supposedly over and you’ve moved on, you empower them to control your emotions, relationship status and actions.
It’s easy to say you’re single, but harder to act like it. Its easy to say you’re not looking for a new relationship, just make sure that you’re not still looking for you’re old one also. When you’ve decided someone is Mr./ Mrs. Wrong, don’t keep running back to him or her no matter how familiar; good they made you feel etc. It didn’t work for a reason.
As one of my friends Gerliyne said, “Quit talking about Mr. Wrong, Quit seeing Mr. Wrong, and for God's sake quit sleeping with the asshole!”
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Slin-K
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