You find out the strength of your
friendships based on what people are willing to stop talking to you over, what
issues they're willing to leave unresolved and what they refuse to apologize
about.
Beware of people who don't understand
or wish to practice the give and take of friendship. You find out who your
friends are, when you need people to return to you; what you have given to them.
People want loyalty, but not to have to be loyal. They want honesty, but they
want options to be honest with you. They want you to trust them, but won't
trust you. They wish to be forgiven, but won't forgive. They want you to ask for
forgiveness, but they wouldn't dare ask for yours; that is too much like
begging. They want you to make time when you're busy, but they wish to use the
busy excuse or the everyone has their own problems excuse when you need a
listening ear. Your sacrifice is appreciated, just as long as they don’t have
to make one in return. They wish to not be in the middle when you need a
neutral or listening ear. Your sacrifices, your faith in them, are all appreciated;
just don’t require any of them. A keyword for any type of relationship, reciprocity.
Beware of people who don't understand
or wish to practice the give and take of friendship.
That’s my experience, my perspective
what’s yours?
Slin-K
I've found that friendship with some people, regardless the length of time, are sometimes not worth pursuing anymore. Some people don't know how to be friends. They want the world but wouldn't give you a block, it's hard and heartbreaking but its a part of life.
ReplyDeleteFriendship to survive requires give and take. Some of my best friends and I disagree on things all the time (different world views) but we are always respectful, always intentional and always ready to extend grace to one another.
Hold on to the friends that extend grace. They are the ones that matter!