Its not only how you date, but who you date

Its not only how you date but who you date , its one of the problems I often encounter in my “How Am I still Single” workshop .
Meaning Ladies and Gentlemen that your pass, sometimes effects your present and future suiters and admirers.  Sometimes people deem you undateable based on who else they know you have had relations or relationships with.
I often tell people that communication is key in relationships, in every aspect and every phase, especially if you want an honest relationship, and if your doing what I call dating near or in someones circle.

I most often encounter and have this talk with women, because women generally respect the circle of other women, but egregiously disrespect that of their exes . Whats the circle, its your group of friends and associates, people you know that you wouldn’t want your ex dating. I recently had a talk with a few ladies who liked some men, but the men they liked had associations to men from their past and they could understand the reluctance.

So quick rule, ladies don't date inside or too close to a mans circle, whats to close, I don't know its different case by case, but use sound judgement and if all else fails think would you be cool with it if the shoe was on the other foot. If your dating or interested in someone that knows your ex, make sure they know what the nature of what your relationship was and don't understate it. Why?  Well lets just think of it like this, we all know how women that have messed with multiple members of a certain, frat, chapter, club, or team, etc are perceived? Well the same goes for groups of friends and you don't want to be on the receiving end of those types of thoughts, no matter how innocent your intentions. Sometimes things just look bad, and the devils are in the details

Its just my perspective, whats yours ?