The Age Old Question pt 2 : Is age really Just A Number ( if you’re younger)

Happy New Year! I know its been a while since I blogged, but I’ve been extremely busy, but hope all has been going well with you, your life, loved ones and relationships. At the end of last year we kind of were talking about exploring dating options, because if you do what you always do, and experience what you always experience, you get what you always got. So this being a New Year and new beginnings we gone try and open up different options about relationships that people seem to have a problem exploring . We left off on Age, and I think we have some loose ends to handle with it.

So, The Age Old question is , Is Age Really Just a Number ? There’s no clear cut answer but it Depends.  So lets look at it from the perspective of Dating up, if you’re the younger person. With all relationships of course there's potential Benefits and Drawbacks so lets think about what possible ones could come up.

If you are a younger person and you find someone interesting thats older, there are some great benefits to dating someone older. In general older people are usually mature already, we all talk about wanting someone mature. Established - Most of us don’t want someone we have to take care of, especially when we’re young and don’t have much ourselves. But also because they are established, they set example of what you want to become. Different experiences - Older people usually offer different experiences, they have different interest,  so it can be a nice change, they may introduce you to some different things and alternative dates. Conversation - Because they have different experiences and are more mature they typically have if not better, at least a different type of conversation to bring to the table. Sexually - Usually more experienced, hopefully they’ve learned to please and deliver pleasure, but more so they usually know more about sex, not just as an act  but as a connection. Beyond that usually into a lil more than the norm so they can expand your experiences. Focus - Older men and women usually know what they want, and are very upfront in letting you know that, and we all want honesty, just be able to appreciate that honesty. Older men and women at a certain age are usually looking for relationships that are more stable, and more serious and they don’t have time to play around about it, so typically less games. Motivation -  You meet and have a chance to go on some dates or date an older person, even if it doesn’t work out, the time spent with them usually affects you for the better. It makes you learn to focus, it teaches you to slow down a lil bit and learn to do something other than live the fast wild young life. You learn hopefully what class, style, grace, etc are. the maturity they have will rub off on you, and affect your drive, ambition and overall outlook on life and relationships.

Drawbacks - There’s possible drawbacks but you have to evaluate them for yourself.
Intimidating - Depending on how much older and how established it can be very intimidating being with a older person because you don't feel like you stack up, but remember its not about that they like being with you for a reason, if that was the issue you wouldn't be there, so don't make it one. Parenting - Some times being with an older person can be like dating  an extra  parent, because they may always want to advise or try to boss you around, remember its a relationship not a parent child relationship, they are totally different. But you may experience a level of it, and rightly so because they have been through what you are going through or may go through, so take the advice, but make your own decisions. Set in their ways - a problem with some older women and men is routine, they like things a certain way, they are accustomed to it and they want it like that all the time. And for a younger person that may be boring. Uncompromising - Some older people are not down with change , they are behind the time and stay only in their comfort level, they have no sense of adventure or risk they only do what they always have and what they know works for them. It can extend to other things also, but its the unwillingness to change or see a new or modern perspective that's a problem.  Seriousness - Some older people are to mature, they forget how to sit back cut loose and wild out and be young at hear, even if for a lil while. The get to uppity in their established roles. For a younger person that would be a dry relationship. Its cool to slow down or settle down, but not to the point that you no longer feel alive and young and free, and we all should feel that no matter what age.


To date an older person, just like everything you do, weigh options. But explore the option, once again if you do what you’ve always done, you get what you’ve always got. We know the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. So expand your options, there is no guarantee that the person you are meant to be with will be same age as you.

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Slin-K
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