Why are You Single?

Why are you single? 

A question asked to often, yet not often enough. Yet not answered truthfully or honestly enough.  It’s a question that stomps most people, when it really should be a good conversation starter. A woman asked me this at the beginning of a date recently, and I had to think a lil bit before answering. Think about it, for the person serious about dating and looking for a real relationship its an excellent and important question to ask, because it tells a lot about a person no matter how its answered, or not answered. It’s a question many haven’t asked themselves, let alone someone they may be interested in pursuing a relationship with.  Why are you single? Think of the possible ways that can be answered.

Is everything that happened or happens somebody else’s fault? Do they take no blame? How many of us know people, that everybody has a problem but them? Isn’t that something you may want to know before getting serious with someone?

Are they the problem? Do they know that they are the problem? Are you available? Are you even looking?  Do you have things you need to work on? Do you have time to commit at the moment? Are they to selfish to be in a relationship right now? Do you have growing up to do? Are you sure you even want a committed relationship right now? Do you even know what you want in a mate? Do you want/expect from a relationship?

See all answers and points of conversation from just the simple question, “Why are you single?” Simple question, yet a complex answer. We probably hear it to often but we don’t answer it truthfully or think about the answers quite often enough.  So sit down and think about it about, Why are you single? And from now on when getting in the getting to know you stage of relationships or talking with someone of interest, ask them “Why are you single” the answer can give more information than the question asked was intended. It’s a question you cant afford not to ask.

My opinion, my experience, my perspective. What’s yours?

Slin_K

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