I’ve been hearing a lot of women complain lately about two very important things, the way men approach them and the way men perform in bed. It really shouldn’t be a surprise considering some magazines write about these things every issue. It seems to me that this is easily rectifiable and I really didn’t think it was a big deal until what seemed like every woman in my circle decided to have a conversation with concerning / complaining or asking for advice concerning theses two one of these two seemingly unrelated topics within the last week.
To be honest though ladies both have to do with communication. We often say and nod our heads along to people saying that communication is key in a relationship. Well, actually it starts before the relationship. I often tell women that anything you don’t like in or about a man you can almost blame a woman for. Why? Because, men are incredibly simple, superstitious, and ritualistic and we only do what works, and what we’re allowed to do. Anything a man does or continually does, its because women have enabled him to do it. So lesson today ladies, speak up, and shut it down early.
So why don’t men know how to approach women? Men do know how to approach women, they don’t know how to approach all women, or approach women like a certain type of man would. Most things men know about women have to do with his experiences with women, especially since most men theses days aren’t taught by older men about to approach a lady. So everything he does that works he keeps and uses on all women, until a woman teaches, or shows him different. Everything, the way he dresses, speaks, how and where he approaches her, everything.
Has a man ever approached you with a weak pick up line, hissed at you, said something he heard in a movie, or just came off disrespectful , etc. Blame a woman. If he is doing it to you, trust this has worked before. Men don’t keep what doesn’t work and get women in their repertoire. For instance this is how men operate ladies, pay attention and take notes, A man figures he has about 3 minutes to talk to you in the street to get you number. Now men that don’t have genuine intention and good conversation rely on lines, game what ever, its like bait. So what they do is, they know they have 3 minutes hopefully, so lets say the first 2 minutes of my convo work but I loose you in the late minute, he’ll keep the 2 minutes that worked come up with something new for that last minute and try it on the next girl. Until he has a solid rehearsed 3 minutes that works at a rate he comfortable with. Its like building a comedy routine.
So blame a woman for letting him sprinkle BS and game her way, knowing it but not shutting it down, so it eventually got to you. I know a woman that routinely makes dudes pul they’re pants up if they want to talk to her, its amazing to see a dude pull his pants up and restart the conversation, just because a woman said so and he realized it wasn’t going to work the way he thought. So speak up ladies, shut dumbness down.
This last part will be quick because its the same idea. Why don’t men do ( insert complaint/ frustration here) in the bed room? Because you haven’t said anything about it, taught him differently or maybe you been faking it to protect his ego. Again blame you and other women. Faking it is the worst thing you can do ladies, because men are ritualistic, so if he thinks it turned you on or made you orgasm, by you faking it, he will store it in his mind and you can look forward to that same piss poor performance the next time or in the future. Just tell him what you want, because most men with their ego assume they’re good in bed and know what they’re doing. Men like directions, especially if it makes you happy and protects his reputation. Don’t let him falsely walk around with his chest poked out and big bull attitude knowing damn well he a sheep, save you and and future women. You are your sisters keeper in both instances.
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