Chivalry found dead; Women are primary suspect ?

Now never mind the title,  I don't actually think that chivalry is dead, but I do believe its on life support, and if women didn't put it there, they at least had a hefty hand in the assault. Now ladies, I know you are going to feel like I’m coming down on you, but I assure you, men got a hand in this also, but remember, I write stuff to help you understand men. I'm going to come down on them also.  

Now fellas we don't get to escape and get off scot free from this one, so I got to tell on us, honestly ladies chivalry is/was in decline to start, because many men just don't want to do it. Its way too much sacrifice and work, for what seems like, for nothing. Now granted, we should do it because we're gentleman that were raised right and because we want to, and not for gratification, but most men were not taught how to be a gentleman, and we surely don't like feeling obligated to do things and getting zero acknowledgement or appreciation for it. Whats the use of being a gentleman if women go and date assholes anyway, and ignore the gentlemen. If men feel like nice guys finish last, guess what happens to the nice guys, they become more rare.  

Secondly, ladies your strength and independence is killing chivalry, especially when you constantly throw it mens face. Its cool to be an independent woman, but allow men to be men, especially when they are being gentlemen. Honestly, if a man is being a gentlemen, shut the hell up about how independent you are, and what you don't need a man to do for you, that is so not the time for that rant. Just say thank you.  I've met a few women like this, so unnecessarily independent that a man cant do anything for her, cant hold the door open or help her carry something, without her thinking you have ulterior motives or you are somehow degrading her  abilities to do the same thing as a man. Ladies pray that most men are not like me, because if I hold a door open for you, walk you to your car or what ever, and you complain, thats the last time you ever have to worry about it being done for you. Your complaining will make a man not want to be a gentleman, and if he's a man that doesn't want to do it anyway, that will give him an excuse to not.

Next, ladies don't try to use a man being a gentleman as a weapon, or to get him to do something you just don't want to do. Especially if you fall in the overly independent category. Example, you mention you want to do something or get something, then you ask him do it and throw “like a gentleman” on the end of the sentence. Or sound annoyed if he looks at you funny and you ask “where are all the gentleman?” He realizes he BS, so cut it, don't ask him to do something just because you don't want to, if you need help, or its kind of a duty thats different, but you know what I mean. Don't try to guilt men into doing things for your by playing the gentleman card, or essentially challenging him into doing it by flashing the smile and batting they eyes, then throwing the card, when the flirt doesn't work.

Lastly, acknowledge chivalry when it happens. No matter how big or small, or how often the act occurs, acknowledge it. Yes, you've been raised to believe he should do it, but remember he doesn't have to, especially if you're not dating him. So appreciate it and don't complain if it doesn't happen the way you want it.  For example, a woman I used to frequently go out with used to get upset with me because I would sit down and not give her the seat. But here was the plan, I was going to sit down and let her sit on my lap, now after we went through this a few times, she understood. She remembered that I have a bad back and occasionally my knee aches, but many women act out before knowing the whole plan. 


Accept the chivalry how it comes. Look out for him too. Make sure he has you in mind before jumping down his throat, he may have a way to make it work for both of you. Would you rather him give you the entire seat and then rush you to leave because he's uncomfortable. He leave and go sit in the car, or some similar instance, because we know that will be a new argument. Appreciate it how and when it comes, if he doesn't do it every time, sometimes let it slide, but acknowledge when he does, tell him you notice he does it more often, tell him you like it, so he doesn't feel like its for granted. Remembers he’s human, and if he’s not use to doing this or being this way, it’ll take some time, be patient with him.

So how do we get chivalry to make a full recovery and comeback? It starts with us fellas, we've got to do it primarily because we want to be gentlemen and because its genuine. Not just because its a first date, or we want to make a good impression, or to shut her up. We have to do it because we should want to make the women in our lives feel respected and special, and we have to teach our sons, younger cousins, mentees, brothers, etc to be gentlemen also so we can keep the cycle going. Being a gentleman is contagious also so, if we're gentleman in front of our boys, you'll be amazed at how they will slowly start to do it and become it also because no man likes to look bad by comparison, so his ego and competitiveness will spark him to be more chivalrous. Also don’t clown your boy for being a stand up man, just because you don’t want to be chivalrous.

Ladies you have to demand that men be gentlemen. Don’t say you want it, then settle for dating non gentlemen. When men don’t act chivalrous, request it, request he pulls out your chair, request he helps you up the stairs, help him learn, then thank him and tell him how it makes you feel. Men always change for women, and do what women like  and what gets women. As my good friend Devin T. Robinson said, “Men will become what ever they need to become so they can cum.” If he’s going to become anything, even if for the wrong reasons, why not make him become a gentleman. 

Thats my perspective whats yours?