Stop the Insanity

I regularly listen to the Michael Baisden show on the radio in the afternoon on my way to the gym, and yesterday he was asking the question if someone says they have a boyfriend or girlfriend are they off limits. His premise was that no one can clearly define what a boyfriend / girlfriend is. And a number of listeners proved him right. 

If we can’t define standardly what a girlfriend / boyfriend is, and agree rather or not someone telling you they have one, is or is not off limits, people we are going down in flames faster than I thought. Its bad enough that we live in a society where cheating has become acceptable and excusable, if you have a good excuse. We already rush to sex and don’t know how to date, and on top of that we are comfortable not knowing. Everyone wants, one(GF/BF) yet we don’t know for what purpose or function they will serve, sickening.

The most sickening thing about relationships now, is our celebrated ignorance and announcing it to the world. What the hell is a complicated relationship? And further more WTF is a wifey / hubby and why is this bull even acceptable? The reason we can’t have decent relationships is because no one knows anything, and we are so arrogant about our ignorance. We love to jump into what we don’t know.

A huge part of a relationship is communication. But if you don’t know what and how to communicate you set your self up for turmoil and inevitable failure. The biggest reason for most relationship problems is unfulfilled expectations, and those come from a lack of communication. 

Let me simplify some stuff for you, if your relationship is complicated that means you don't understand the nature and direction its going and you’re just going alone for the ride to see what happens. This is usually people who are indecisive about what they require, want, need and will accept. Or, people in on again off again relationships and don’t know where they stand, and are in transition. If its complicated you’re not in one, people in them know. 

Lastly this wifey and hubby shit has got to stop, if you’re not married you don't have a husband, hubby, wife or wifey. All of these have become bastardized terms for people that want to pretend they are closer than they really are, to people who usually have no intentions to marry them. Its a pacification technique at its finest, its just like saying the marriage vows in bed, or getting rings tatted on your fingers, you’re still not married, and you can be walked out on at any time.  Its a way to gas up your head you simpleton, like saying “I could marry you, I probably won’t, but could.” Its like wife light, kind of like a wife but not quite as fulfilling. Wifey has no promise of tomorrow, stability, or a future wedding.It has no dedication or commitment to it, no legality. If you want those titles and benefits, have the ceremony, and quite faking the funk, its a big difference, stop settling.

Its no wonder no one believes in the sanctity of marriage anymore, because any jump off and random fool can be called a wifey or hubby, and we have no explanation of how that makes you more than a GF/BF , oh but I forgot we don't even know the functions of those any more, get it together people. Please! Children are watching us.