Slin-K answers, why men dont match make

Dear Slin-k , long time reader, I got put on to your writing by the ladies in my office at work, <3 the work Keep it Up. I have a question regarding men, I have male friends, cousins, brothers and what not , and they have friends but they never want to introduce me to any of them even if I like them, what is that all about? They dont want me to like any or date any of their friends , why is that? Ive heard that from my homeboys it may be because they like me, is that true and are my family members just being overprotective? Help me understand sincerely...........

Dear anonymous ( name protected) thanks for the love, glad im helping someone or entertaining you, either way glad to make you think and start discussions.
As far as men introducing you to their friends, most men are overly protective of the women we know with the men that we know. There are a number of reasons. Could they like you possibly, over protective to  a degree. Most likely for your friends and relatives  its the fact that most men know the good and bad of their friends and no matter how good he may be now, we always remeber the wild and crazy things they did to girls, and things we have witnessed and we dont want there to even be a possibility of that to happen to a woman we know. We’ll feel like we set you up.

Also most men dont want to think about a dude they real cool with sexing a woman we know, it just messes with our head.

Lastly also most importantly, its not so much of a hating thing, but most men wont be the match maker, they wont hook ya’ll up, but if you want to approach him he wont say anything. Reason, especially in a friends situation, you dont want two of your friends dating because if it go wrong and ya’ll break up he doesnt want to have to choose between the both of ya’ll and /or split time between ya’ll. Because when a break up happens between friends its like a divorce.  SO I can guarentee they not totally against it, but they are not for it either.
Talk to them, Im sure they’ll tell you all the good and bad of their friends, they may emphasize the bad, but thats a warning, we only want the best for the women we know, better than us, and we tend to think of our friends as on our level, even if we are the best of the best.