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We all know sex is an important aspect of relationships. With all the various issues, expectations, worries and questions we have on sex; we have enough to worry about. But there are areas that we may wish to avoid, yet in the interest of honesty, we need to tackle. One area that can make even the most confident person become self -conscious is a discussion about sexual history. People often wish to not disclose that information because it’s such a touchy subject. However, a reader specifically asked, “Do men care about women’s body count / number of past partners?”
And the answer to that very personal question is both Hell Yea! and I don’t want to know. It’s more of an it depends thing.
Hell Yeah!!!:
He cares if your sexual history is going to directly affect the present and future. So does he know the guys? Does he have a relationship with any of those guys? How often and in what capacity does he need to interact with those men? For example, if it’s a guy that lives in the town but he only has to see this guy on rare occasions he can overlook that. But if it’s someone he goes to church with, or any man in his inner circle (close friends, family, teammates, fraternity chapter brothers, or coworker) those are much harder to overlook. He also cares about rather he has to hear about your sexual past. Your sexual history will definitely matter if he hears gossip about you in public. If he’s intimidated by your sexual experience, know-how or interest, it may bother him. If he believes you’re too experienced for your age too freaky for his liking, he may question and want to know whom you learned from and how many people you’ve done this with? If he’s religious and worried about your virtue/purity, your sexual history may be of grave concern. The last thing that would make him care about your body count/sexual history is if there is evidence of it. Is there a video, a scandal, have you ever worked in a sex industry? For other men it’s children; specifically the number of children and the number of fathers can be a subject of contention. These types of things will not only make men care about your sexual history, they're going to need to be discussed to sort the fact from perceptions and some men will judge you harshly for it.
I don’t want to know:
There also reasons your sexual history may have no bearing on his decision. You test negative. For some men, your health status will keep them from needing to know anything else, if you’re healthy and free of STD’s we’re good to go. For some men they simply don’t want to know the intimate details of your past, they may be aware that their minds, imagination, and egos can’t handle it. Honestly for most men no matter what amount of partners you say, it's going to be too many for their liking or they won’t believe you; and a discussion where you share intimate details about your sexual past will probably lead to you asking about his sexual past. Most men want no parts of sharing that information or discussion. His nosiness may want to know, but he probably can’t handle the truth.
Most men don’t care about all of your history. What you do before dating us is mostly, none of our business. We’ll be concerned with what you've done while we’re in the picture, the snapshot of time right before we become exclusive up to maybe the small window right after if we breakup. Those are the parts that will matter to most men; knowing your entire sexual history is usually too much because it may affect the fantasy we own of you in our heads. No matter what your count or history a man that truly wants to be with you will deal with; look at the numbers of former call girls and porn actresses that end up happily married, so don’t fret , just be honest.
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