Unnecessarily Single / The Emotional Hoarder

In a previous piece we discussed and identified a number of reasons why women , especially pretty girls and good girls are single. Now in that post we went through many different reasons why women are sometimes unnecessarily single, especially when they want to be in a relationship. It was a general overview and a few very good reasons, and it sparked a lot of conversations and debate when I was out in the street, so I plan to go in further detail about each of the reasons in post to come.  Mainly its about choices and the way women make choices that keep them single. But, lets review.

There are a number of reasons why women are single unnecessarily, some obvious, some not so much. Some very big ones, women are single but not emotionally available, they’re too picky (standards/types), lets not ignore the numbers and ratios of women to men, women being unwilling to compete, women being selfish, and women being unwilling to approach men. Now, I’ll touch each one of these in detail later, but at the top of that list if not #1 its at least 1-B, is the he's just a friend syndrome, or as I call these women Emotional Hoarders / Friend Collectors.

I got into a debate with a friend of mine and a woman I'm sort of interested in, because they had a stated belief that all the good men are either dead, in jail, married, or gay. Now the problem comes in fact that they both know plenty of good men, they just wont date them, all the good men they want to stay friends with them.  Most women are emotional hoarders to some degree. Now I believe that everybody should have at least one good friend of the opposite sex, but to sit and just collect good men that you have made off limits is just self defeating.  

Why would you date someone that's not your friend in the first place, anyone you date should want to be your lover and your friend. 

Sometimes ladies you got to be a little bit more selfish, especially when you find a good man or know them in abundance. I know women that will hook up and play match maker, for all of their friends, but for some reason they just cant see one for themselves. Every time they meet one they make him just a friend, well how many do you need. Why collect them? Stop looking for a man that's like (insert name here) and ask him out on a date, no one can be a better him than him. The girl I'm interested in, every time she describes the man she’s looking for she describes me, but wont date me. Most of the time, its not that he wont date you, its that you wont date him. He probably started out trying to date you, then you handed down the death sentence and threw him in the dreaded "FRIEND ZONE". And every woman has at least one friend like this.  

Women that do it serially are just like hoarders of anything else, they do it so that they don't get hurt. They don't want to let go. They are afraid to gamble. They are afraid of what they may be missing without these thing/ friends. So rather than take that gamble they want their cake and eat it to. But it essentially becomes clutter, its like not being able to see the forest for the trees.  You cant find a good man because you have so many in front of you that they are obscuring your vision. Its another way of making your dating pool, a puddle because you keep filtering good men out, but in this case, storing them into the friend zone, and if all the good men are filtered out because you're friends with them and refuse to date them, it only leaves two alternatives, alone or dating other undesirables. Please don't become one of those women at your friends wedding knowing that it could've and should've been you. 

I’m Just saying, that's my perspective, Whats yours ?