Q. What's going on with our women? I met this beautiful sister after a church service, we had a very intelligent conversation about relationship, marriage, household responsibilities and so forth. I was impressed how much our values were aligned and how flexible she was when it comes to compromising to maintain a relationship. I know it was all theories but it sparked a level of interest to some extent. Eventually we connected on facebook where we would chat occasionally and she would seem to convey that she was lonely. She would mention the job going well, but the city is boring especially when there's no one fun there a reoccurring theme in every conversation regardless how short it was. So I proceeded to engage in an act that would imply that I was interested. I anonymously send her a bouquet of flowers (not roses) with a simple note encouraging her to smile. She posted it on fb, she seemed happy, her friends commented, then she started doing her investigative her to figure out who it was from. When everything is settled, after she said she was speechless and grateful. She wouldn’t respond to a simple hi on facebook. She never expressed any curiosity as to why I sent the flowers. in a week period she gradually stopped talking to me. ?????
A. Thanks for the question, awe man thats rough, and Im sorry thats your experience, there are a number of possible things that could be going on here. Its seems like we have a situation that a lot of women are currently in and battling, where they are so use to loosing and dealing with losers that they don’t know when they are actually in the game or winning. I think the flowers gesture was a nice thing to do and it seems as if you did all the right things. It seems as if you became a victim of doing something nice, and in the end having your motives questioned, she was thankful, but seem as if she may have jumped to the conclusion of thinking she knew why you sent the flowers. We can never be positive, but it seems that way. And for her to completely stop talking to you may suggest that, maybe she went through something like this before and it had a bad outcome. But she handled it the wrong way, because one thing we know about losers, is they will fake it to make, they’ll do a bunch of nice things that they don’t plan to keep up, things done with an insincere heart and when you let down your guard they mess you over. And too many of our women have been through this scenario sadly, so now they don’t trust even little gestures. The problem is getting worse because so many dudes see that being a looser has its benefits so they don’t want to do better because its not mandatory. Its a shame that the women in the church are going through this but just because you go to church, doesn’t mean that you’ve matured or know how to properly deal with a situation correctly yet, what we would have hoped she did was at least communicate what was wrong. Ladies take that as a suggestion, if a man is trying to do something nice, before you just break out and cut him off, please communicate what the problem was. But be strong and keep doing the right things it will be rewarded, this situation tells us that she was single but obviously not available,ready, or maybe she just doesn’t recognize the signs of an adult relationship. My perspective at least. Thanks for your question
If you have any questions about relationships, love, sex the opposite sex feel free to send your questions. Until next time friends
A. Thanks for the question, awe man thats rough, and Im sorry thats your experience, there are a number of possible things that could be going on here. Its seems like we have a situation that a lot of women are currently in and battling, where they are so use to loosing and dealing with losers that they don’t know when they are actually in the game or winning. I think the flowers gesture was a nice thing to do and it seems as if you did all the right things. It seems as if you became a victim of doing something nice, and in the end having your motives questioned, she was thankful, but seem as if she may have jumped to the conclusion of thinking she knew why you sent the flowers. We can never be positive, but it seems that way. And for her to completely stop talking to you may suggest that, maybe she went through something like this before and it had a bad outcome. But she handled it the wrong way, because one thing we know about losers, is they will fake it to make, they’ll do a bunch of nice things that they don’t plan to keep up, things done with an insincere heart and when you let down your guard they mess you over. And too many of our women have been through this scenario sadly, so now they don’t trust even little gestures. The problem is getting worse because so many dudes see that being a looser has its benefits so they don’t want to do better because its not mandatory. Its a shame that the women in the church are going through this but just because you go to church, doesn’t mean that you’ve matured or know how to properly deal with a situation correctly yet, what we would have hoped she did was at least communicate what was wrong. Ladies take that as a suggestion, if a man is trying to do something nice, before you just break out and cut him off, please communicate what the problem was. But be strong and keep doing the right things it will be rewarded, this situation tells us that she was single but obviously not available,ready, or maybe she just doesn’t recognize the signs of an adult relationship. My perspective at least. Thanks for your question
If you have any questions about relationships, love, sex the opposite sex feel free to send your questions. Until next time friends
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