In a previous blog ( before I had an account on tumblr, for my tumblr fam) we discussed how one can be too picky and end up making their dating pool a dating puddle and drastically reduce their odds of finding a decent person to date because they’ve filtered out possible good candidates, by focusing more on what they want than what they need in their relationships. I want to revisit that train of thought and pose this question ,are you willing to date below your level ? Now I know its easy to get conceded right here and start to believe that Im telling you to date anything and anybody and settle and ignore your standards yada yada yada, blah blah blah. Wrong we are not discussing settling, settling as in accepting disrespect, drama, accepting someone you’re not in love with or who isn’t in love with you, etc, etc.
Today we’re going to make a case for the person less fortunate than yourself. We often hear people and sometimes we talk about being fortunate, blessed, highly favored etc. And when we talk about relationship we often hear and say love should be unconditional, but many of us live by a motto either knowingly or unknowingly of meet me or exceed me in the people that we date or look to date. To many people have an elitist attitude about who they deem acceptable to date and allow little things that can sometimes should be optional to being with someone especially if love really is unconditional.
Let me ask this question because its a better representation of mindset, is get, are the qualities for going on a date with you, getting to know you , and dating you unconditional ? Because many people will stick with and overlook things once they have already fallen in love with someone or if they are dating them. But many people get extra picky about whats acceptable to date.
For those of that went to college I know sometimes it seems like they let any idiot in college and that its easy to do, but the fact that you go to college speaks to a certain level of fortune, there are many people that will never be just broke enough to afford college to go to college, so for my college students and college educated think about this , would you date someone that wasn’t college educated? Too many people make education a requirement when it should be an option, a bonus, because we all know there are plenty of aint shit people that are educated and cluttering up college campuses.
What about if someone had a job that was socially considered beneath yours? Lets say you have a white collar job, or are on the track for mid level management, would you even consider dating someone that was blue collar? Im talking grocery store clerk, sanitation worker, maintenance worker ? Im especially asking ladies, please don’t be under the assumption that good candidates for relationships only wear suits and ties, and have white collar jobs, and sad to say I know a few who think this. What if they made less money than you make, would you give them the time of day to even see if they were worth knowing and if you could fall in love with them.
What if they are less religious than you? Im just asking, these are the type of things grown folk should think about. Too many people try to standardized their dating approach and in the mean time they eliminate plenty of good candidates by being uppity. There are good and bad, right and wrong people of every category. Your level as a standard is something that should be optional, cool if you can get it, but if people meet other things your require, it should be able to be supplemented for other qualities.
Think about it, what if the person meant for you is less educated, not even formally educated, has less money and status and they have non praise worth job. But they have common sense, they have drive, they respect you, adore you, they have values and want things in life. Are you gone turn that down in search of something better? Too many people end up loosing because they don’t know when they’ve won. You don’t always win the way you want, if you religious how do you know that your purpose for coming in to that life is not to bring them closer to GOD? I think dating people should be like a job application, there should be minimum requirements and preferred qualifications, because sometimes the person with the minimum qualification really is best for the position. Im just asking you to think about it, there are plenty of regular hardworking people out there with jobs that aren’t glorious, that didn’t go to college or trade school, you may not want to overlook them with out good reason. We’re not talking settling, we’re talking compromise, its for mature people. My perspective, whats yours
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