So apparently it’s been “ I need a date” season, and I
recently found out that I’m on the short list of people to call if; you need to
go to a classy event, dress up or don’t want to be embarrassed. There are worst
things to be known for, ijs.
Check the story. I got a call from a young lady that I
occasionally hear from, and she asked if I’d escort her to a holiday party. I
agreed because she is cool to hangout with. So I asked her what made her call
me and she let me know I was on her short list, because I was cultured, could
hold intelligent conversation, etc. etc. But as she spoke what I actually heard
was good enough to go on dates with not god enough to date. Bet not a problem,
I know where we stand.
So any way, we go on the date, a very nice place and set up,
people dressed up, nice dinner and dancing, the whole 9. So when we get there she goes above and
beyond to introduce me as her “Friend”. Not a problem for me, the other single
women in the room jumped all over the opportunity. I’m not accustomed to being
the most desirable man in any room, but I can get used to it quickly. I’ve
never received that much attention in my life. Now I figured some of it had to
be extra just to make her jealous. The proof that I’ve matured as a man is
that, a younger me would have tried to sleep with ever woman giving me
attention at once, and damn near forgot about my date. But I was being
selective trying to figure out if the girls really liked me or were really
trying to just upset her. To shorten a long story, even though she didn’t want
to dance in between other dances I made her dance and have fun, being a good
date.
Skip ahead to later in the night. By the dessert section
were mistletoes, kind of set up so that at some point you’d pass under one.
Well as I got dessert you’d have thought it was a kissing booth at the state
fair. I think that was the straw that broke the camel’s back for my date, as
she got her revenge by claiming all of the slow dances at the end of the night,
and of course she put a little extra on a few dances o make her competition
wonder.
SO in the car I asked her if she got a little jealous, and
she admitted that she did. I asked why, considering she kept throwing around
friends, and considering that in the past she has never wanted to date me or at
least that’s what she has told me. Her
answer as that she did once, but she wanted me to basically chase her and I
gave up. LOL, because I have long given
up on hoping that my perseverance and persistence would convince a woman to
date me, you may call it giving up, I just don’t make investments that don’t
payoff.
So after this holiday dating season, I got to thinking that
I have a profile, the women that know me, think of me in a certain way and
certain things come to mind when they think of me; things I’m good at, things
I’m not, thing they’d do with me and things they wouldn’t. And some of the
things they think and believe, I may or may not agree with. Your dating profile
is kind of like your profile on your social network page, but I like to look at
it as more like a scouting report in sports. Your profile is the image you want
to give off, but a scouting report is more in-depth. It would consider your
strengths, weaknesses, attitude, what you think you are, your habits etc. In 2014, I think we need to assume that we
are under the microscope, and look at our selves under the microscope and be
tough on ourselves. We need to look at the things unseen to the naked eye and
search for potential problems. The reasons we may be single or not content in
our relationships may have something to do with what’s in our profile. We need
to search ourselves compared to the best version of ourselves we wish to become
and improve. Let’s look at the people we entertain, date, sleep with, reject,
place in the friend zone or even worse in the family zone. (The Family zone is
a topic Ill tackle in 2014, you maybe guilty of it). I challenge you all and myself to see what’s
in your dating profile, and leave no stone unturned and make no assumptions.Figure out what the facts, figures, statistics, scenarios and data of your dating life are, and what perceptions they give off.
Happy New Year and I wish you all safe happy relationships.
Slin_K
@Slin_k_plymath
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