The Question everyone should ask?
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We often discuss things that people should talk about, or questions one should ask before dating someone. I have time and time again mentioned that I find it crazy that there is an entire part of the dating process that we call “talking”, yet people don’t like to ask deep or hard hitting questions during this stage when they are supposed to be getting to know each other and negiotiationg out what a relationship could potentially be.
There are countless questions we have been taught to ask before entering a relationship with someone, that gives us a more in-depth look into the person, their personality, desires, and beliefs. Questions such as Do you want kids, do you want to get married? Have you ever been married? Are you separated or married? What are your religious views, what are your political views? What are deal breakers for you? Where do you work? Where did you go to school? What type of debt do you have? How did your last relationship end? When was your last relationship? Are you over your last relationship? What’s the hardest part about dating you? What are you looking for? How often do you get tested? How do you handle conflict?
And all are excellent questions, but one question every woman should start asking is; “what are your intentions with me?”It’s a strong powerful, straight to the point question that instantly lets a man know that you are not dealing with a woman that is about games or having her time wasted.
“What are your Intentions?” stands out because it’s a question that another man would ask. It’s the type of question a woman’s father, brother, friend, uncle, etc. would ask; to determine what kind of man you are to see if he detects BS in the air.
When your intentions are questioned, how you answer is critical. When your intentions are questioned it’s a hard question to fake. “What are your Intentions?”, will stop you dead in your tracts. “What are tour Intentions?”, will cause you to pause and think before you answer. It’s the type of question that throws you off of your game if you called yourself playing games. A young lady asked me this question at a speed dating event and it completely caught me off guard, because it’s such an out of the ordinary question.
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It’s a question that has to be respected, and that has to be answered; you can’t gloss over it or skip it, once it’s asked, an answer is mandatory. I think it’s a question everyone should ask because you can know what he’s looking for in a relationship, you know what his 5yr plan is, you can know the type of woman he’s interested in; and he cannot intend for you to be apart of any of it.
Nothing will piss you off more than wasting time dating or going on dates with someone, only to find out that they never intended for anything more than a casual relationship. For a man that has no intentions of being with you; no amount of time spent, no amount of experiences or moments with him will make him want a future together, so don’t be afraid to toss that question out and possibly break up a mood, so that you can get some understanding and clarity about how you’re investing your time.
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